Where do you
actually stand?
Seven questions to clarify what the diagnosis named — and what you are still living.
This is not a quiz. There is no score, no profile type, no result waiting at the end.
These are the questions I ask in a first session — the ones that cut through the history and get to what's actually happening. Read them slowly. Answer honestly — not for how you want to present yourself, but for what you already know is true.
If they land, that's information worth acting on.
1. Since your diagnosis, what's one thing about your past behavior that now makes sense — not as an excuse, but as an explanation you can actually work with?
2. Has the diagnosis changed what you believe is possible — or has it mostly confirmed what you already suspected?
3. Where are you still performing a version of yourself that the diagnosis should have made obsolete?
4. Where in your work or your relationships are you expending the most energy on something that isn't working — and haven't stopped?
5. What would your daily life look like if you stopped adapting your cognitive style to systems that weren't built for it — and designed your own instead?
6. What's the one thing you know would change your situation significantly, that you keep finding reasons not to address?
7. If the internal friction disappeared tomorrow — not the external circumstances, just the friction — what would you do first?
If these questions surfaced something specific, that specificity matters. The work doesn't start with a diagnosis. It starts with knowing exactly what you're working on.